We often see troubled people around us, and we want to help them. We want to share their burden, but still we feel difficult to put this sympathy towards them in words, we fear that we might hurt their self-respect by using inappropriate words. So we assume it’s best to show that we are unaware of their problems and we do not help them. To make the situation even more difficult for us, there are certain people with so much “EGO”, that we are afraid, we will bruise their ego, if we offered our help. Yet we want to help them because we love them.
However, let me first make it clear about that “EGO” thing, most of the people have a theory, that people who have ego and attitude problem, do not earn relationships and friends in their life. Well I would like to make it clear that despite of having attitude, they are also loved.
Taking it back on the topic, to offer help to someone without hurting their self-respect, you will have to show your love and care to them before offering help. No matter, what kind of problem they are facing, keep one thing in mind never talk of their problem on their face. Never go and straightforwardly tell them that you want to help them with whatever problem there are facing. You will have to be a bit subtle. Never make a statement about their problem even if you are sure, just ask them politely.
Go to them and show them that you care, show them that you are worried about them, ask them for their problem and tell them that you just want to help them. Use some kind of a line that shows the deepness, and intimacy of your friendship. For example if any of your friends is having a bad financial time. Just go to him, tell him that you are aware of his problem, and you may even use the line “best friends do not offer help, they give you order.” Or you may even use the line “best friends share everything, even their problems” and he will happily accept your help, and you will not hurt his self-respect.
When people are facing some problem, they become very fragile and so does your relationship with them. They might be expecting your help or your support. If they are expecting help from you, and you do not help them, then definitely your relationship will take a down turn. So do not pretend as if you have not noticed that your friend is having a bad time, try to help them.